breakingstride

Anonymous asked:

I'm 19 and my girlfriend is 13, everyone shames our relationship but she's just the most precious thing ever :/

ambitiousbard answered:

okay look dude I know you don’t want to hear this

but you are 19 years old and you are dating someone who is 5 years younger than the age of consent in america. If you don’t think you’re going to at least get weird looks when you tell people this, I have some news for you.

ambitiousbard:

rammdark:

spencerofspace:

ambitiousbard:

grimduck:

but in time she’ll be 23 when he’s 29, number doesn’t really matter because of ageing and all, maybe just the timing?

the problem isn’t the age gap, I mean shit there was about a 5 year age gap between my step father and mother. It’s not the most extreme example but whatever.

The problem is that it’s a 19 year old legal adult dating a middle school aged child.

The probably with age difference in adolescent relationships is the rate of development. I agree that past the age of 24, a 5 head age difference isn’t a huge deal. But between 12 and 24 is when people are going through the hugest development. A 13 year old and a 19 year olds brain chemistry doesn’t even work the same. I’m not saying they couldn’t get along, but the hormone difference there is extremely significant.
I mean, you wouldn’t set a 2 year old up on a playmate with a 7 year old.
5 years is almost half of a 13 year olds life. The higher the age difference is compared to the age of the younger party is important.

My dad graduated from school when my mum was -born-

that’s real fuckin neato but the age difference isn’t the problem, the problem is that a legal fucking adult is dating somebody who should be in middle school like what is so difficult to grasp about this concept.